The beauty of problem-solving is that, unlike punishment, it offers endless possibilities. If you're committed to punishment and your child continues to misbehave, all you can do is punish more severely. You might hit him harder or take away more privileges, but chances are you won't get any closer to your goal of having a cooperative child. And you'll create a lot of ill will in the process. With problem-solving, you can always go back and brainstorm some more. When you put your heads together, you're bound to come up with something that will work for both of you. Joanna Faber
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  1. Many children are naturally picky eaters. It may even be genetic, or developmental. But given a range of healthy choices, children will choose a balanced diet–so long as junk food isn't included in the mix. Children are tempted by sweets and fried food just as...
  2. There's a world of difference between, "Look at this mess you made! " and "I don't like to see food on the floor!
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  4. As for logical consequences, the "logic" is highly debatable. If you continually arrive late for my workshop, despite my warning that lateness is unacceptable, I may find it "logical" to lock you out of my classroom. Or perhaps it would be more "logical" to keep...
  5. Study after study has found that young children who are not constantly ordered around are much more likely to cooperate with simple requests from a parent–for example, cleaning up toys when asked–than children who are micromanaged and controlled much of the time.
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